Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Where Do YOU Fit When You're a Parent?

Everywhere you look and read there are professionals and friends really pushing you to keep your own self and identity even while parenting.  The point is that keeping in tune with what makes you tick and allowing yourself to continue to be your own self while parenting makes you a better parent. The problem is, where do you fit in time to focus on YOU?

If you are a close family with relatives willing to watch your kids for free or take them for an overnight stay, then I could see how finding time for you would be so much easier. What if you are not that family? What if you have no one to take your kids and you are stuck trying to work around being a parent and juggling children? What do you do then?

Here are some ways you can fit YOU into the equation of parenting:

  • Take a walk - let your spouse know you need some time away, that you are just going to go for a walk. Work out a time that works best for both of you and head outdoors for a walk with no guilty feelings.

  • Read a book - if reading is your think, set aside an hour after the kids are asleep to indulge in a novel that suits your interested.

  • Write in a Journal - journals are a great way to document who you are, how your day was and keep track of how your life is going. It's also a great way to relax the mind after the kids go to sleep so you can sleep better and wake up more refreshed.

  • Get a Hobby - if you have something that you have been passionate about for years but have not been making time for it, now is your chance. Kids sleep at some point, right?  Whether it be on a weekend night or week day night, set aside an hour each day to do whatever it is you enjoy.


Remind yourself that you matter as much as your children on a daily basis. It's all too easy to get consumed in the every day parenting rituals and wake up one day to find your kids are grown and you are lost. Do not make it so that you have to work harder after the kids are grown to find your own self, make it easier by taking a tiny bit of time each day to focus on you.