Thursday, August 4, 2011

Raising Boys; Mooning, Challenges and More

I am a NH mother of three children, two of which are boys who are two years and six days apart. My ex husband and I thought it would be great to have our children close in age so that when the children were grown up we would still have our "young" years to enjoy. Little did we realize that raising two boys so close in age would prove to be a challenge. I work from home, which is a privilege I fully enjoy, however, this means 24 hours a day, 7 days a week I am with these two boys of mine. Their names are AJ and Baby K, they are 3 & 5 years old now which hasn't proved to make life any easier except I must admit there are more laughs at the things these two attempt to do.

It all started with small challenges to each other, such as who can win a race to brush their teeth in the bathroom, who can win to their bed at bedtime and who can win at a Wii video game, of course AJ always won because he is older, faster and a rather competitive soul. As the boys got older it became evident that Baby K would need to get in touch with his inner competition mind, so now it's not just who can win to the bathroom, it's who can win at eating dinner, who can win when Mama calls them to her and who can win when eating melting ice cream at the local ice cream parlor. All of this male testosterone drives me bonkers, I am a girl, I am not into the whole "who can do this first" scene.

I have really tried to understand this competition between the two but all I can come to realize is that "they are boys" and this is in their nature. Baby K seems to think he is a monkey and AJ seems to think he is born to race! Since Baby K is more of a clumsy monkey I must admit I worry when the boys are outside ready to raise their bike down my front steps, granted it's only three steps but three steps is a long way to fall for a little one. The other day I was outside getting the mail which is a short distance from my front steps, when I turned around my sons were racing head first down the three little steps, I ran so fast to catch them but guess what? They didn't even fall! Part of me had hoped they had totally failed at this attempt to race down my steps so that they would give up and move onto another venture but since they succeeded this has simpy been part of their daily life and every time I want to close my eyes and cringe.

Another thing life brought upon me raising two boys so close in age is their love for body parts, yes I mean their you know what's and their bums. I have actually attempted to get a picture of the boys playing together when I click the camera to find AJ had mooned me just at the right moment. Since AJ has started to moon his sister and me, Baby K has started to think this is okay behavior and does the same thing quite often. I am the kind of mom who has a real hard time not laughing at this unacceptable behavior becuase if you think about it, it's rather funny wondering where these two came up with this idea of mooning people. I don't moon people, their sister doesn't moon anyone so where do these boys get these ideas from?

Every day is a challenge, every day brings on more bruises, more cuts and more challenges of what their little bodies can handle which makes this Mama have more near heart attack experiences, tears and worrisome days, but when I sit back and think about the days that have passed raising these two boys I feel happy and loved more than ever because these boys love their Mama and want nothing more than to make their Mama proud. As my sweet AJ heads to kindergarten I feel a piece of my heart aching but I know this Fall I will have one of my double trouble team members making life a little easier and a little less hectic .. I hope.