Monday, February 8, 2010
Saturday, February 6, 2010
Relationship Disasters
Are you looking at facing the possibility of ending a current relationship? Maybe you recently got out of a relationship. Whatever your situation is if you find yourself not wanting to be with the person you are currently with, take a moment to look in the mirror at yourself. YES I said it, LOOK AT YOURSELF!
Seriously, sometimes the problems you are seeing in a relationship is simply a matter of how you perceive things or how you programmed yourself to respond to situations. Starting from an early age we look to our parents as our first role models in love, relationships and dating. Were your parents truly happily married for years? Did they have a love that was unconditional and a support like no other you have ever seen OR were they like so many other parents in this world and divorced, remarried and quite possibly divorced and remarried again and again?
You see, as much as we hate to admit it, we do learn how to live our lives based on our surroundings and up until the age you move out of your parents home, those are the people who have instilled learned behavior into your head. Before you take the lunge to leave a relationship I invite you to take a peek at what you really want and need in life and a relationship. If it comes down to leaving your current relationship then so be it, but be certain that you take the time to have closure from that relationship and truly understand what went wrong so that you are not re-living the mistakes made in that relationship with your new relationship.
Many times we have habitual behaviors that will not go away unless we take the time to truly listen to our hearts. Be certain to know what you need and want in a relationship and settle for nothing less than what would work for you. Many people will overlook something in a "prospect" because they want so badly to be loved and in a committed relationship, society doesn't help with this because as woman we are not suppose to play the field so to speak. Women are seen in a negative light if they take the time to go out and date multiple men (no I am not referring to sleeping around - having sexual intercourse). Women and men have every right to date multiple people as long as they are being honest to each of these people and are not having sex with all of them, unless that's your thing and everyone is okay with it, then hey it's your life, just protect yourself if you know what I mean.
When ending one relationship you may find yourself depressed, crying often, losing weight or eating more and you may even want to just sit around and pout about it, even if the decision was yours, breaking up is a hard thing to go through. There may be times when you sit around wondering what is wrong with you, why can't you just keep a good relationship? You may even be thinking geez everyone thinks this is a great guy, why can't I see that he is a great guy?! The problem is not the character of the other person, the problem is that even the best of the best people in the world may not be the correct match for you, and that is okay. No one but you should determine what is right for your life and how you live it. Do not allow family, friends or anyone else in this world ever tell you that you are making a huge mistake, okay I take that back, let them tell you that, but take it at face value. If someone is judging you based on your relationship situation when the reality is they do not reside in the same household with you, then they have an outsiders view, and we all know a realtionship can be very different in private than when seen in the public eye.
No matter what your situation is, remember to live your life for YOU and if you have children, live your life for THEIR HAPPINESS too! Life is too short to sit and dwell on situations you know in your heart aren't right for YOU and YOUR HAPPINESS.
Make it a Happy Day!
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Seriously, sometimes the problems you are seeing in a relationship is simply a matter of how you perceive things or how you programmed yourself to respond to situations. Starting from an early age we look to our parents as our first role models in love, relationships and dating. Were your parents truly happily married for years? Did they have a love that was unconditional and a support like no other you have ever seen OR were they like so many other parents in this world and divorced, remarried and quite possibly divorced and remarried again and again?
You see, as much as we hate to admit it, we do learn how to live our lives based on our surroundings and up until the age you move out of your parents home, those are the people who have instilled learned behavior into your head. Before you take the lunge to leave a relationship I invite you to take a peek at what you really want and need in life and a relationship. If it comes down to leaving your current relationship then so be it, but be certain that you take the time to have closure from that relationship and truly understand what went wrong so that you are not re-living the mistakes made in that relationship with your new relationship.
Many times we have habitual behaviors that will not go away unless we take the time to truly listen to our hearts. Be certain to know what you need and want in a relationship and settle for nothing less than what would work for you. Many people will overlook something in a "prospect" because they want so badly to be loved and in a committed relationship, society doesn't help with this because as woman we are not suppose to play the field so to speak. Women are seen in a negative light if they take the time to go out and date multiple men (no I am not referring to sleeping around - having sexual intercourse). Women and men have every right to date multiple people as long as they are being honest to each of these people and are not having sex with all of them, unless that's your thing and everyone is okay with it, then hey it's your life, just protect yourself if you know what I mean.
When ending one relationship you may find yourself depressed, crying often, losing weight or eating more and you may even want to just sit around and pout about it, even if the decision was yours, breaking up is a hard thing to go through. There may be times when you sit around wondering what is wrong with you, why can't you just keep a good relationship? You may even be thinking geez everyone thinks this is a great guy, why can't I see that he is a great guy?! The problem is not the character of the other person, the problem is that even the best of the best people in the world may not be the correct match for you, and that is okay. No one but you should determine what is right for your life and how you live it. Do not allow family, friends or anyone else in this world ever tell you that you are making a huge mistake, okay I take that back, let them tell you that, but take it at face value. If someone is judging you based on your relationship situation when the reality is they do not reside in the same household with you, then they have an outsiders view, and we all know a realtionship can be very different in private than when seen in the public eye.
No matter what your situation is, remember to live your life for YOU and if you have children, live your life for THEIR HAPPINESS too! Life is too short to sit and dwell on situations you know in your heart aren't right for YOU and YOUR HAPPINESS.
Make it a Happy Day!
Friday, February 5, 2010
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Monday, February 1, 2010
Flirty Valentines Day Ideas
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Do you do anything special for Valentine's Day? I haven't ever really gone out on the town but I do like to try to buy sexy lingerie on occasion for that special person in my life. I love searching for lingerie because it's just nice to know that you are climbing into bed feeling all special and sexy.
Flirty Lingerie has the newest styles and colors in all types of lingerie, bras, panties, thongs, babydolls and much more! I enjoyed looking at their site and even found some very cute Rhinestone jewelry. I am a huge fan of using jewelry to bring attention to various areas of your body such as your eyes, chest and ears. Valentine's Day can be the one night out of the year that you get a babysitter for your kids, pick up some hot lingerie and then have a nice romantic evening in with your loved one.
Why not check out Flirty Lingerie to see what they have in store for your next romantic weekend getaway?!
Make it a Happy Day!
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Do you do anything special for Valentine's Day? I haven't ever really gone out on the town but I do like to try to buy sexy lingerie on occasion for that special person in my life. I love searching for lingerie because it's just nice to know that you are climbing into bed feeling all special and sexy.
Flirty Lingerie has the newest styles and colors in all types of lingerie, bras, panties, thongs, babydolls and much more! I enjoyed looking at their site and even found some very cute Rhinestone jewelry. I am a huge fan of using jewelry to bring attention to various areas of your body such as your eyes, chest and ears. Valentine's Day can be the one night out of the year that you get a babysitter for your kids, pick up some hot lingerie and then have a nice romantic evening in with your loved one.
Why not check out Flirty Lingerie to see what they have in store for your next romantic weekend getaway?!
Make it a Happy Day!
Longing For Something
She sits waiting, longing for him to be the man she wants and deserves. Each day when she is feeling down and out about the whole situation she has a thought in her head, the wanting of him to just grab ahold of her and kiss her, tell her that things will be okay, that life doesn't have to be this way. This girl wonders how the relationship got to the point it is, she wonders if it's because she married dependent and later became independent?! There are so many thoughts that cross this girls mind.
It's sad to watch as you realize the man you married isn't the man you need or deserve. It's sad to feel your self esteem diminish because you have been emotionally neglected for so long. It's sad to hear family tell you that hopefully things work out because you never had much luck in the relationship department. It's just frustrating and sad. The whole situation has been a learning one, but a small part of her keeps waiting to have him just grab ahold of her and apologize for the deceit, hug her tight and tell her he loves her. She has been waiting a year for him to be like this, reality is he has never been that person. There was that one time back when they were first dating that she almost left him, he had a secret profile on a website and the friends list was full of girls, she should have known back then that the attraction he should have had for her, wasn't there.
Reality is he is not aligned with her in every way, he is someone who needs a motivator, someone who can tell him over and over again what needs to be done, someone who can take his phone calls and return the phone calls of those who leave messages. He needs a mother figure type of woman, and that is not what she is. Every day that passes her eyes are opened to what may have happened, after many years of not so good relationships, she finally found a man who wasn't physically attracted to her and she thought it meant love. Although in some ways it's true they were in love, she can't help but think if they fell in love with the idea of him and her. The idea of a man like him and a woman like her. The idea of two people who when seen together people looked and wondered "what are they doing together?".
Whatever the reason for their marriage, it's quite obvious that they are two different people with two different life long goals. She is outgoing and ready to push her own business, he is quiet and down to Earth and just goes with the flow of life. She wants more, she yearns to enjoy life to the fullest, she longs to do all she can to raise her children in a positive light, she longs to find that man who will love her independent nature, one who will be independent himself too. A relationship shouldn't be all one person giving and giving, which is what their relationship started off as, she gave and gave and never thought twice about the fact that him not giving in return would cause issues in the future.
She doesn't want a perfect relationship, she really wants her husband to be the person she wants and needs. She wishes for some level of attraction from him, open communication, honesty and respect. Reality is she can't have those things from the man she married, he is not the type to open up and be honest, he is the type who you must pull information out of, and reality is she is not that woman. This man needs a woman who can give more than she receives, this woman wants a somewhat equal give and take relationship.Raising babies together works for them, they both seem like they are on the same page with that, but when is just co-existing to raise some babies a good marriage? She understands that this is going to be a life changing event, she completely gets it but at the same time she refuses to sit back and allow her life and emotional well being to be teared down by a person who just can't give her what she expects and needs in a relationship.
This girl is a giver and she loves to give her all, but when the day came that she realized she was the only person giving her all in the marriage she had to make a decision. The first decision was to sit down and communicate her issues, her feelings and ask how he felt about all that she said and the marriage. He felt things were fine, he knew life had gotten hectic and raising babies took away from their personal relationship, but he felt life was content and he was okay with this. The girl is not okay with this, what he feels and what she feels are two different things. He felt okay because he still received support from her, back rubs, compassion and honesty. She didn't feel okay with the situation because she was not receiving any of that in return. This woman worked her butt off to make sure kids were ready for the day, business was running perfectly, articles were written daily and she was taking care of everyone but herself for so long that one day she just woke up and realized this is not going to work for me. When she spoke of this to her husband, he shook his head and went out for a cigarette, you see that is how he responds to everything. She feels that he is a loose canon, he wants to be the working parent in the household but can't hold a job down, he once promised her he would work and she could stay home with the kids, that is what they both wanted. One day in August she woke up to find that he had left his job after a discussion the night before about how he couldn't do that unless he wanted to be a stay at home Dad so she could go back to work.
Reality is she is very bitter and angry that he made a selfish decision to quit a job after a long discussion the night before explaining why quitting the job was not an ideal situation. The day he made that selfish decision she had an eye opening reality check, and since that day she has been doing all she can do to pick up from his mistake, and since he made a selfish decision she started making her own decisions on life, relationships and making money. A family is suppose to make decisions together, yeah sometimes we make mistakes but we are suppose to learn from them and not keeping making them. She feels he keeps making similar mistakes that are destroying her family both emotionally and financially, she has to let go, she has to move on for the sake of her positive family.
When the life you thought you were going to live forever ends up being the life you lived for a few years, a person can become very mixed up emotionally and right now this girl is very mixed up because the things she longs for her husband to be, he can not be. He is just not that man and she needs to realize this so that they can move on in a positive way for their childrens sake.
Make it a Happy Day!
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It's sad to watch as you realize the man you married isn't the man you need or deserve. It's sad to feel your self esteem diminish because you have been emotionally neglected for so long. It's sad to hear family tell you that hopefully things work out because you never had much luck in the relationship department. It's just frustrating and sad. The whole situation has been a learning one, but a small part of her keeps waiting to have him just grab ahold of her and apologize for the deceit, hug her tight and tell her he loves her. She has been waiting a year for him to be like this, reality is he has never been that person. There was that one time back when they were first dating that she almost left him, he had a secret profile on a website and the friends list was full of girls, she should have known back then that the attraction he should have had for her, wasn't there.
Reality is he is not aligned with her in every way, he is someone who needs a motivator, someone who can tell him over and over again what needs to be done, someone who can take his phone calls and return the phone calls of those who leave messages. He needs a mother figure type of woman, and that is not what she is. Every day that passes her eyes are opened to what may have happened, after many years of not so good relationships, she finally found a man who wasn't physically attracted to her and she thought it meant love. Although in some ways it's true they were in love, she can't help but think if they fell in love with the idea of him and her. The idea of a man like him and a woman like her. The idea of two people who when seen together people looked and wondered "what are they doing together?".
Whatever the reason for their marriage, it's quite obvious that they are two different people with two different life long goals. She is outgoing and ready to push her own business, he is quiet and down to Earth and just goes with the flow of life. She wants more, she yearns to enjoy life to the fullest, she longs to do all she can to raise her children in a positive light, she longs to find that man who will love her independent nature, one who will be independent himself too. A relationship shouldn't be all one person giving and giving, which is what their relationship started off as, she gave and gave and never thought twice about the fact that him not giving in return would cause issues in the future.
She doesn't want a perfect relationship, she really wants her husband to be the person she wants and needs. She wishes for some level of attraction from him, open communication, honesty and respect. Reality is she can't have those things from the man she married, he is not the type to open up and be honest, he is the type who you must pull information out of, and reality is she is not that woman. This man needs a woman who can give more than she receives, this woman wants a somewhat equal give and take relationship.Raising babies together works for them, they both seem like they are on the same page with that, but when is just co-existing to raise some babies a good marriage? She understands that this is going to be a life changing event, she completely gets it but at the same time she refuses to sit back and allow her life and emotional well being to be teared down by a person who just can't give her what she expects and needs in a relationship.
This girl is a giver and she loves to give her all, but when the day came that she realized she was the only person giving her all in the marriage she had to make a decision. The first decision was to sit down and communicate her issues, her feelings and ask how he felt about all that she said and the marriage. He felt things were fine, he knew life had gotten hectic and raising babies took away from their personal relationship, but he felt life was content and he was okay with this. The girl is not okay with this, what he feels and what she feels are two different things. He felt okay because he still received support from her, back rubs, compassion and honesty. She didn't feel okay with the situation because she was not receiving any of that in return. This woman worked her butt off to make sure kids were ready for the day, business was running perfectly, articles were written daily and she was taking care of everyone but herself for so long that one day she just woke up and realized this is not going to work for me. When she spoke of this to her husband, he shook his head and went out for a cigarette, you see that is how he responds to everything. She feels that he is a loose canon, he wants to be the working parent in the household but can't hold a job down, he once promised her he would work and she could stay home with the kids, that is what they both wanted. One day in August she woke up to find that he had left his job after a discussion the night before about how he couldn't do that unless he wanted to be a stay at home Dad so she could go back to work.
Reality is she is very bitter and angry that he made a selfish decision to quit a job after a long discussion the night before explaining why quitting the job was not an ideal situation. The day he made that selfish decision she had an eye opening reality check, and since that day she has been doing all she can do to pick up from his mistake, and since he made a selfish decision she started making her own decisions on life, relationships and making money. A family is suppose to make decisions together, yeah sometimes we make mistakes but we are suppose to learn from them and not keeping making them. She feels he keeps making similar mistakes that are destroying her family both emotionally and financially, she has to let go, she has to move on for the sake of her positive family.
When the life you thought you were going to live forever ends up being the life you lived for a few years, a person can become very mixed up emotionally and right now this girl is very mixed up because the things she longs for her husband to be, he can not be. He is just not that man and she needs to realize this so that they can move on in a positive way for their childrens sake.
Make it a Happy Day!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Need Help With Marketing?
I have been working endless hours on writing up a 6 week e-course called Marketing for Success and I am so excited that the course is finally available and after announcing this course to my newsletter subscribers I wanted to announce it to you, my blog readers too!
So what is Marketing for Success? It’s a 6 week e-course that delivers weekly tasks and tips to show you how to market your brand. Whether you are a blogger or a business owner this course is designed to be friendly for whatever brand you are trying to market!
Covering social media, basic search engine optimization and much more! You also get one free consultation/question with me each week should you have any questions about the course materials.
Why Marketing for Success in a 6 week e-course? Just like you I am a very busy Mom, business owner and blogger. I wanted a way to help you boost your brand exposure without having to commit to weekly meetings with a huge group of people held within a Skype conference call or chat. I wanted a way to share with you my knowledge gained from marketing my own brand and many client’s brands without taking up too much of your time. We all work at our own pace and this 6 week e-course will allow you to work at your own pace and with the once a week free consultation/question with me, what do you have to lose?
If you are ready to take the lunge and start Marketing for Success then visit Brandy Ellen’s Business Solutions and sign up today!
Make it a Happy Day!
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So what is Marketing for Success? It’s a 6 week e-course that delivers weekly tasks and tips to show you how to market your brand. Whether you are a blogger or a business owner this course is designed to be friendly for whatever brand you are trying to market!
Covering social media, basic search engine optimization and much more! You also get one free consultation/question with me each week should you have any questions about the course materials.
Why Marketing for Success in a 6 week e-course? Just like you I am a very busy Mom, business owner and blogger. I wanted a way to help you boost your brand exposure without having to commit to weekly meetings with a huge group of people held within a Skype conference call or chat. I wanted a way to share with you my knowledge gained from marketing my own brand and many client’s brands without taking up too much of your time. We all work at our own pace and this 6 week e-course will allow you to work at your own pace and with the once a week free consultation/question with me, what do you have to lose?
If you are ready to take the lunge and start Marketing for Success then visit Brandy Ellen’s Business Solutions and sign up today!
Make it a Happy Day!
Monday, January 25, 2010
Saving Me Some Money
I am on this saving money kick all of a sudden, not that I ever really was a big spender but lately it seems that saving all the money I possibly can is so important to me. I think it's because I have seen the potential of what I can truly make from home that it's nice to see my bank account have more than just pennies in it!
Anyways I have recently been told that Lane Bryant is the place to go for a variety of things, mainly my bras and so I used my friend Google to search for Lane Bryant and low and behold I found some Lane Bryant Coupons that I will certainly have to use when shopping for my bras.
I am amazed at all the online coupons that you can find when you are looking for them! Anytime I try to buy something online I make sure to search for a coupon via the Word Wide Web, because you never know what you may happen upon, I seriously came across coupons for Home Depot when I searched trying to find deals for various items I will need to purchase at tax refund time for my home.
Do you look online when you are shopping for products to see if you can find any coupons or better deals than you would find by just going shopping?!
Make it a Happy Day!
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Anyways I have recently been told that Lane Bryant is the place to go for a variety of things, mainly my bras and so I used my friend Google to search for Lane Bryant and low and behold I found some Lane Bryant Coupons that I will certainly have to use when shopping for my bras.
I am amazed at all the online coupons that you can find when you are looking for them! Anytime I try to buy something online I make sure to search for a coupon via the Word Wide Web, because you never know what you may happen upon, I seriously came across coupons for Home Depot when I searched trying to find deals for various items I will need to purchase at tax refund time for my home.
Do you look online when you are shopping for products to see if you can find any coupons or better deals than you would find by just going shopping?!
Make it a Happy Day!
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